“ I do think taking the 20s to take the most chances you can is important, because you're not going to hurt anyone else during that time. And if you do have a partner, you need a couple years to rehearse that relationship. ”

“ We really only have two choices. Play it safe, or take a chance. For me, pulling back because of fear has always made me feel worse. ”

“ If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living. ”

“ Being a pathfinder is to be willing to risk failure and still go on. ”

“ In my memoir, I admit that I've been as fearful of success as of failure. In fact, when 'Passages' was published, I so dreaded bad reviews that I ran away to Italy with a girlfriend and our children to hide out. ”

“ I found that female pathfinders generally integrate characteristics commonly associated with being women - like the capacity to be intimate - with 'male' ones like ambition and courage. ”

“ In rough times, pathfinders rely on work, friends, humor and prayer. They develop a support network. ”

“ When men reach their sixties and retire, they go to pieces. Women go right on cooking. ”

“ The delights of self-discovery are always available. ”